An Attempt To Date A Gemini Cancer
G.D.O'Bradovich III
October, 2012
The following is not meant to exhaustive. The result is inconclusive.
Part the First-The Subject
Cancers are best described by their zodiac sign. They are slow to move when it comes to love and, like their namesake, they do not advance head on, but in a sideways manner. They have a not unreasonable fear of being hurt. The water signs recall all slights that have occurred to them. Whereas the rest of us remember it in our mind, and to a lesser extent our heart, the water signs will "feel it" again. One must tread carefully in this regard.
Cancers are cautious in love and money. Money and love are forms of security. The thought of "I'm down to my last $3,000" will send them into panic mode. Because Cancers are emotional, family is very important. The feeling of security, financial and emotional, comes from their childhood and upbringing. I presume the child had parents that gave support to their Cancer child. This is not always known. Cancers rule the home, so as adults, we expect them to feel comfortable there. If they do not feel safe there, they will develop stomach problems- Cancers rule the stomach.
Cancers will not tell people of any events or information that they feel the other party will not react in a positive manner. I do not know if this behavior will change. After one has several dozen experiences of this behavior, one will be able to recognize it. However, this is not half the battle. By Nature, one may confront this reticence head on. At times this may "force" the Cancer to talk. More likely, the Cancer will crawl into his shell and become more intractable.
The Gemini side will use all the tricks of the "used car salesman of the Zodiac" to prevent the Cancer side from being hurt. This will work for the vast majority of people. However, Great Occultists see through the sham bravado, the redirection, the confusion of the issue or the answer. However, the unsuspecting person thinks the question was answered when, in fact, it was not. The Gemini side enjoys learning and can be insightful and a talker, when, and if, the Cancer side feels safe. It is not enough for the Cancer side to feel comfortable, he must feel safe. The gulf between comfortable and is safe is larger than between knowing and having an opinion. Good luck and patience are needed for those who attempt to close this gap. Success is never assured. Gemini is an air sign, so it must be engaged in intellectual or thought provoking discussions. They tend not have libraries, as this distracts from engaging people in conversation. Gemini influenced people will have a range of interests, so there is no need to be concerning about topics to discuss. If one is fortunate, after several years, the Cancer will reveal interests that one did not suspect they have a passion for.
The Gemini is good with finances due to his Mercurial Nature. Because of the their dual nature, Gemini Cancers will realize the value of items and not hoard everything that is was touched by someone they once knew decades ago. Cancers who are affected by other astrological influences will have an hour dedicated to them on A&E, "Hoarders".
It is best to acknowledge past failures in relationships once, and not bring this matter to light again. The last thing one wants is a permanently moody and morose Cancer. Cancers, being ruled by the Moon, are moody by nature. This can not change. However, if they are in a "funk" this will pass in about two hours. The two hours is the time it takes for the moon to move into another sign. If one is not prepared to endure this ever changing tide of feeling, one should not attempt to date a Cancer. They enjoy water of all kinds. Outdoor swimming and wading will do wonders for them. Adult Cancers will own large bath tubs, hot tubs or swimming pools. The successful Gemini influence will assure the acquisition of all three, plus a summer house on the beach.
Unfortunately, one can not tell a Cancer Gemini what to do. This will be a failure and, in the long term, unproductive to any relationship. They have a mind of their own, or four, depending on how one counts. The most one can do is state explicitly that one is there for them and their emotional support. Do not be fooled into thinking that they want other people to be as timid as they seem to appear. One can imply and hint and not be forthcoming about everything else to the Gemini Cancer (they will recognize these), but one must state one's support for them unequivocally. This is not to be done daily, but only when the Cancer Gemini feels the need for it. This is hit or miss advice, as there is no fool proof formula for using it. If there are two rivals for the Gemini Cancer's affection, the Cancer will feel safer with the one who not only states their support, but acts upon it. The Gemini side will agree with this conclusion.
Part the Second-Viable Candidates
If the Cancer Gemini were a Cancer proper, I would suggest finding a nice water sign for a relationship. The emotional ups and downs of a Pisces or a Scorpio would mesh well with a Cancer. Unfortunately, the influence of Gemini will not allow a successful relationship with another water sign. Therefore, we must search for a compatible earth sign to "ground" the Cancer Gemini.
Due to the influence of the cusp in our subject, we will limit our potential candidates to earth signs and review both cusps. Since the Moon only rules Cancer, we can not use the ruling planet to find a compatible partner.
The ruling planet of Virgo is Mercury and this would go well with the Gemini influence of our subject. The cusp with Leo would be very compatible with the Gemini influence. However, the tendency of Leos to be overpowering, due to their solar influence, does not compliment the Cancer influence. The other cusp of Virgo is Libra and this would be a nice partnership with Gemini. Unfortunately, the inability to make a timely decision will ultimately irritate the quick minded Gemini. Therefore, Virgo is not a suitable candidate for our subject.
Taurus is the fixed earth sign and would provide stability to our subject. Unfortunately, their intractable nature would, later than sooner, wear the Cancer out emotionally. A candidate on the cusp of Aries and Taurus would provide the fiery nature that the Gemini influence would find attractive and exciting. In the long run, their all too self centeredness would prove untenable for a relationship. A candidate on the cusp with Gemini would provide an initial spark to the relationship due to same attributes, but all astrologers know, same signs do not work out together. There is one exception to this rule-Virgo.
By the process of elimination we come to Capricorn. Capricorn is depicted as the front part of a goat and the hind quarters of a fish. Capricorn's emotional state is cover by the gruff goat, but it is present. Capricorn rules life outside the home and is traditionally understood as business. Therefore, our candidate can supply both the emotional support (earth sign and part fish) and financial support (earth sign and knows the value of money) The airy cusp of Aquarius is compatible with Gemini. Unfortunately, Aquarians are not traditional thinkers and their unconventionality will wear out it's welcome. The fiery cusp of Sagittarius is compatible with the airy Gemini influence of our subject. Sagittarius rules religion and philosophy. These subject and other varied interests will keep the Gemini influence engaged for many years.
Part the Third-Conclusion and Portents for the Future
Part the First-The Subject
Cancers are best described by their zodiac sign. They are slow to move when it comes to love and, like their namesake, they do not advance head on, but in a sideways manner. They have a not unreasonable fear of being hurt. The water signs recall all slights that have occurred to them. Whereas the rest of us remember it in our mind, and to a lesser extent our heart, the water signs will "feel it" again. One must tread carefully in this regard.
Cancers are cautious in love and money. Money and love are forms of security. The thought of "I'm down to my last $3,000" will send them into panic mode. Because Cancers are emotional, family is very important. The feeling of security, financial and emotional, comes from their childhood and upbringing. I presume the child had parents that gave support to their Cancer child. This is not always known. Cancers rule the home, so as adults, we expect them to feel comfortable there. If they do not feel safe there, they will develop stomach problems- Cancers rule the stomach.
Cancers will not tell people of any events or information that they feel the other party will not react in a positive manner. I do not know if this behavior will change. After one has several dozen experiences of this behavior, one will be able to recognize it. However, this is not half the battle. By Nature, one may confront this reticence head on. At times this may "force" the Cancer to talk. More likely, the Cancer will crawl into his shell and become more intractable.
The Gemini side will use all the tricks of the "used car salesman of the Zodiac" to prevent the Cancer side from being hurt. This will work for the vast majority of people. However, Great Occultists see through the sham bravado, the redirection, the confusion of the issue or the answer. However, the unsuspecting person thinks the question was answered when, in fact, it was not. The Gemini side enjoys learning and can be insightful and a talker, when, and if, the Cancer side feels safe. It is not enough for the Cancer side to feel comfortable, he must feel safe. The gulf between comfortable and is safe is larger than between knowing and having an opinion. Good luck and patience are needed for those who attempt to close this gap. Success is never assured. Gemini is an air sign, so it must be engaged in intellectual or thought provoking discussions. They tend not have libraries, as this distracts from engaging people in conversation. Gemini influenced people will have a range of interests, so there is no need to be concerning about topics to discuss. If one is fortunate, after several years, the Cancer will reveal interests that one did not suspect they have a passion for.
The Gemini is good with finances due to his Mercurial Nature. Because of the their dual nature, Gemini Cancers will realize the value of items and not hoard everything that is was touched by someone they once knew decades ago. Cancers who are affected by other astrological influences will have an hour dedicated to them on A&E, "Hoarders".
It is best to acknowledge past failures in relationships once, and not bring this matter to light again. The last thing one wants is a permanently moody and morose Cancer. Cancers, being ruled by the Moon, are moody by nature. This can not change. However, if they are in a "funk" this will pass in about two hours. The two hours is the time it takes for the moon to move into another sign. If one is not prepared to endure this ever changing tide of feeling, one should not attempt to date a Cancer. They enjoy water of all kinds. Outdoor swimming and wading will do wonders for them. Adult Cancers will own large bath tubs, hot tubs or swimming pools. The successful Gemini influence will assure the acquisition of all three, plus a summer house on the beach.
Unfortunately, one can not tell a Cancer Gemini what to do. This will be a failure and, in the long term, unproductive to any relationship. They have a mind of their own, or four, depending on how one counts. The most one can do is state explicitly that one is there for them and their emotional support. Do not be fooled into thinking that they want other people to be as timid as they seem to appear. One can imply and hint and not be forthcoming about everything else to the Gemini Cancer (they will recognize these), but one must state one's support for them unequivocally. This is not to be done daily, but only when the Cancer Gemini feels the need for it. This is hit or miss advice, as there is no fool proof formula for using it. If there are two rivals for the Gemini Cancer's affection, the Cancer will feel safer with the one who not only states their support, but acts upon it. The Gemini side will agree with this conclusion.
Part the Second-Viable Candidates
If the Cancer Gemini were a Cancer proper, I would suggest finding a nice water sign for a relationship. The emotional ups and downs of a Pisces or a Scorpio would mesh well with a Cancer. Unfortunately, the influence of Gemini will not allow a successful relationship with another water sign. Therefore, we must search for a compatible earth sign to "ground" the Cancer Gemini.
Due to the influence of the cusp in our subject, we will limit our potential candidates to earth signs and review both cusps. Since the Moon only rules Cancer, we can not use the ruling planet to find a compatible partner.
The ruling planet of Virgo is Mercury and this would go well with the Gemini influence of our subject. The cusp with Leo would be very compatible with the Gemini influence. However, the tendency of Leos to be overpowering, due to their solar influence, does not compliment the Cancer influence. The other cusp of Virgo is Libra and this would be a nice partnership with Gemini. Unfortunately, the inability to make a timely decision will ultimately irritate the quick minded Gemini. Therefore, Virgo is not a suitable candidate for our subject.
Taurus is the fixed earth sign and would provide stability to our subject. Unfortunately, their intractable nature would, later than sooner, wear the Cancer out emotionally. A candidate on the cusp of Aries and Taurus would provide the fiery nature that the Gemini influence would find attractive and exciting. In the long run, their all too self centeredness would prove untenable for a relationship. A candidate on the cusp with Gemini would provide an initial spark to the relationship due to same attributes, but all astrologers know, same signs do not work out together. There is one exception to this rule-Virgo.
By the process of elimination we come to Capricorn. Capricorn is depicted as the front part of a goat and the hind quarters of a fish. Capricorn's emotional state is cover by the gruff goat, but it is present. Capricorn rules life outside the home and is traditionally understood as business. Therefore, our candidate can supply both the emotional support (earth sign and part fish) and financial support (earth sign and knows the value of money) The airy cusp of Aquarius is compatible with Gemini. Unfortunately, Aquarians are not traditional thinkers and their unconventionality will wear out it's welcome. The fiery cusp of Sagittarius is compatible with the airy Gemini influence of our subject. Sagittarius rules religion and philosophy. These subject and other varied interests will keep the Gemini influence engaged for many years.
Part the Third-Conclusion and Portents for the Future